If you’ve ever had dinner in Italy or France — or even just imagined it — you might have felt something hard to name. Maybe you saw a movie where everyone is lingering around a table full of amazing food and thought, “I want to eat that!” Or “How do they have time to cook such a meal?!” Maybe you were once in a little French bistro along the Seine and felt a kind of ease. A rhythm. Did you wish you could eat like this every day?
It’s not just about the food (though, of course, the food is fabulous). It’s about how the meal is treated — as something essential, even when it’s simple.
In both Italy and France, dinner isn’t rushed. It unfolds. Courses come one by one, inviting conversation and pause. The table is a gathering place, not just for nourishment but for connection. Children aren’t fed first — they’re part of the moment. There’s no multitasking. No phones. Just presence.
I grew up with it. I lived it in France. I married into it. And now I teach it — because I’ve seen how dinner can feel different in the U.S. And how many people here are missing something: something calmer, more connected, more nourishing on every level.
The beauty of this kind of dinner is that it isn’t fancy. It’s not reserved for holidays or special occasions. It’s everyday life — and it can be done with ease.
You don’t need to recreate a French bistro or a Tuscan kitchen. You don’t need special ingredients or extra time. What matters is how you eat, not what you eat.
These rituals don’t add time so much as they reshape it. They create a little island in the middle of the week, where life slows down enough for us to taste it.
And yes — kids notice.
They soak it all in. Not just the flavors and the food but the atmosphere at the table itself. When dinner is a ritual, not a chore, it teaches kids that food is about more than getting full. It’s about slowing down. Tasting. Being together.
This is how children learn to eat well — not through pressure, bribes, or tricks — but by being included and living the daily rhythm of mealtime. By watching, listening, and growing up at the table.
And this is what I teach.
Because I believe American families can do this too. Even with picky eaters. Even on a busy weeknight. Especially then.
More on that soon: I’m working on a new series about how to help kids eat more like French and Italian kids do — with curiosity, calm, and maybe a little adventure.
Because great eaters aren’t born. They’re raised — one meal at a time.
They learn their “diet” isn’t about restriction — it’s a way of life.
To continue this conversation, please read “Don’t Diet, Just ‘Diet.’” It’s about a way of life around your food.
And if you want some easy dinner ideas, all you need are a few of your favorite ingredients and a few minutes to make something — a salad, an omelette, some charcuterie, fresh fruit, a cheese course, chocolate ... think simple, fresh, quality.
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If you have questions, please write to me — I’d love to hear from you. While I wait for my first book to be published, I’m cooking up book #2. It’s all about taking the stress out of family dinners with kids at home, and making them a lot more enjoyable!
